"Marry and with luck it may go well. But when a marriage fails those who marry live at home in hell." -Euripides
We all want to be in a good relationship with our partner. But at times we feel like our relationship is falling apart or our partner wants to leave us. We do not know what to do. If you are like most people in these situations, you are probably scared and confused, not knowing what to do next. And the truth is you are not alone. You have plenty of company. People like you who do not know what to do often feel this way because they are not aware that a trained and capable family therapist can help to heal a relationship and put it back on track.
Please do not give up. There is still hope for you, even if your partner refuses to come to therapy. I recommend that you give me a call and I can explain to you what family therapy can do for your relationship.
I have extensive experience in treating couples and assisting them to develop a more satisfying relationship. My success rate is extremely high. I utilize cutting edge research-based family therapy techniques and theories to obtain quick and definite results, including Emotional Couples Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory.
Besides my extensive training and clinical experience, the fact that I have been married for 34 years and raised three children enables me to bring my personal experience into my practice. I am not afraid to share my own experiences with my clients and let them know that being able to communicate one’s wants openly and learning to build one’s relationship is the key to more successful marriages and partnerships.
I strongly emphasize the importance of emotions and communication in order to uncover the love which is often buried beneath feelings of hurt and anger. Once you are filled with hatred or negative emotions, then your partner appears to you as hostile. The result is fear, inhibition, hesitation and sense of insecurity. Once partners maintain a feeling of compassion, loving and kindness toward each other, then something wonderful automatically happens. Their hearts open up and they are now able to openly communicate with each other and share their loves and lives with each other. The happy result is that now they are less in need to hide things from each other. Arguing, secrecy, bitterness, resentment, fear, self doubt, and insecurity will disappear.
My treatment focus is always to take into account the cultural and religious background of my clients. Respecting and understanding my clients’ cultural and personal values makes it easier for all of us to arrive at happy solutions.
Areas that I focus on are:
- Relationship/marital counseling
- Premarital counseling
- Faithfulness issues
- Lack of sharing
- Ineffective communication
- Sexual issues
- Abusive relationships
- Money issues
The latest trend is couples therapy is premarital therapy, when couples are considering getting married and want to resolve any problems before the marriage, including differences in religion, conflicts with in-laws, etc.
I am trained to use the Prepare/Enrich Program for the counseling of couples who are planning to get married. This program is based on a set of five inventories that examine major issues a couple may face. Once the inventory is conducted, the couple and I spend 3 to 6 sessions in order that I can provide feedback to the partners on their results.
The Prepare/Enrich Program emphasizes six goals:
- To explore relationship strengths and growth areas.
- To teach partners to be more assertive and communicate better.
- To learn to resolve conflict utilizing a ten-step model.
- To allow partners to freely discuss their family of origin.
- To help partners plan their finances and budgeting.
- To be able to focus without conflict on the future goals of their marriage.